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When I decided to write this book on relationship, my wife Barbara was surprised and cautioned me by saying that she would not dare write such a book because it was such a varied topic with so many nuances. That scared me because she is certainly more qualified to write about relationship than I am. I hesitated for a while but then I jumped in.

I have written about relationship before but was not satisfied with the results but now, for some unknown reason, I felt ready to tackle this huge topic and feel good about this book. I don’t see myself as an expert on relationship but I definitely have a lot to share that may be helpful to others.

Relationship: Notes on Love, Mutual Respect, Boundaries, Marriage, and Divorce is available now by clicking on the BUY NOW button below or on the book cover for the print version for $12.95 plus shipping. Or, order the Kindle version from Amazon.com by clicking HERE .

The book contains ten chapters including What is Love, What is A Good Relationship, Fostering and Nurturing Relationships, Harming Relationships, Mutual Respect, Boundaries, Marriage, Breakups and Divorce, Helpful Tips, Final Thoughts, plus a Preface and an Introduction.

Already there has been praise for this book. Here are just a few samples!


I found this book to be such an informative and important read offering tips for all types.  I couldn't agree with the author more about never ever taking your partner for granted and that love means ALWAYS saying you're sorry— actually as quickly, whole-heartedly and as often as needed.  I'd recommend Bill's book to add zest to an already good relationship or to help you create the one you long for. 


Denise Fleck


Oftentimes clear, true insight comes from someone not “trained” or “educated” in a particular field of thought. This book represents one of those times. The subject of “relationships” is so complicated few outside the legal/ counseling/mental health arenas even attempt to address it for fear of being ignored, misunderstood or, worse yet, laughed at.


The author’s conversational style makes his book about the subject quite easy to read / understand and as one absorbs his meaning . . . believable. It rings so true that as I was reading, I kept wanting to cut out paragraphs to put on my computer, refrigerator and bathroom mirror!


Read this book. You will be glad you found it. In fact, you will probably send a copy to your child . . . I did!


JHB

RN, BSN, MHA

Author, editor, publisher


 I hope your day is going well.   By the way, I am really enjoying your book.  I am reading it differently than I had intended, though, to my surprise.

 

There is too much there to gloss over it lightly.  I found that out, quickly, when I read your definition of love.  I had to stop right there.  It took me two weeks of pondering, just that bit, and examining my life and relationships, to finally come to the conclusion that I completely agreed with you!!  It was a serious contemplation on my part.

 

I have found myself, in further reading, wishing that there was a workbook or outline guide at the end the book to further address all the wonderful points that you make, sort of a relationship checklist!   (maybe there is one….I haven’t checked the end.)

 

It is lovely, Bill.  I think many people can and will benefit from the dialogue that you present.  It truly makes one have a self-conversation.  I am delighted at my own introspection in relation to your written word and experience.


It is like eating rich chocolate and having the need to savor and roll it over the tongue; in this case, the mind, for the true essence of what is being communicated.  I can’t imagine one being in a relationship and not contemplating the effectiveness of one’s actions, or non-action, in reading it.

 

I also listened to some of it in a female voice.  It “reads” well in audio, if you haven’t tried that. 

 

Thank you, so much, for sharing this with me.   I am truly becoming a better partner, for what you have gained  and are willing to share. 

 

Sherry Haskin

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Resourceful Book On Relationship
By the GreatReads! TOP 500 REVIEWER

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We are living in a time of drastically shifting social culture, and changing expectations. The pulls and pressures on relationship demand much more than mere romance. The reality is quite different from the Hollywood fairytales. Happy and stable relationships are not built on just romantic love but there are many important contributing factors. Many relationships are based on intimacy and the physical desire. That’s why they don’t usually last, except on celluloid.

Relationship: Notes On Love, Mutual Respect, Boundaries, Marriage, and Divorce by A William Benitez explores the subject of intimate relationship and probes how one can be in a wonderful relationship. This book contains ten insightful chapters:


-What Is Love
-What is a Good Relationship
-Fostering and Nourishing Relationships
-Harming Relationships
-Mutual Respect
-Boundaries
-Marriage
-Breakups and Divorce
-Helpful Tips
-Final Thoughts


The first two chapters define love and relationship. The third chapter points the way to building a good relationship while the fourth is about the pitfalls in any relationship. Chapter five and six deal with various aspects of a relationship while the next is about marriage. Chapter eight is about the most unpleasant journey in any relationship, while the author offers some helpful tips in the next chapter. The last and final chapter is the final thoughts of the author.

What is most striking about Relationship: Notes On Love, Mutual Respect, Boundaries, Marriage, and Divorce by A William Benitez is the author’s willingness to draw lessons from his own personal experiences which is both honest and incisive. He has written a wonderful book with the hope and desire to help others enjoy a wonderful, happy, and healthy relationship. This is a must-read book for all desirous of building and nourishing their relationships to a higher level.


“Relationships are not about competition between partners. It should be about giving and taking”
By Grady Harp HALL OF FAME TOP 100 REVIEWER

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A. William Benitez's career is not as a therapist (his work included the construction business, governmental housing official, woodworking, IT manger for Hyatt Regency, founder of Positive Imaging, LLC writing and publishing) and he succeeds in this book about Relationships because of the gentle manner in which he relates his insights. He has an innate understanding about relationships that work (he is currently happily married for 23 years in a very strong and sustainable marriage) and ones that fail (his first marriage of 17 years ended in divorce) and has the courage to admit that he is one half of each relationship - a gratifyingly honest approach to view life in retrospect as well as with introspection. Or as he states, `My goal with this book is that, as an individual, parent, grandparent, spouse, and lover, I might be able to share just a small amount of information you might find of value.'

As far as the structure of this warm book of supportive guidance is concerned the author states, `This book contains ten chapters entitled: What Is Love, What is a Good Relationship, Fostering and Nourishing Relationships, Harming Relationships, Mutual Respect, Boundaries, Marriage, Breakups and Divorce, Helpful Tips, and Final Thoughts. All the chapters contain information based almost exclusively on personal experience that I hope helps to create safe, happy, and healthy relationships.' And from that platform for discussion we join Benitez in a drawing room atmosphere of heart to heart conversations about each of the topics he outlines.

His highlighted phrases scattered through the book are gems to ponder, phrases like `Love is caring for another person enough to want for her what she wants for herself, even if what she desires is not in your best interest.' After making statements such as this, Benitez dissects it, amplifies it with either personal experiences or postulated ones until we understand the concept completely.

So much of what is shared here is not earthshakingly original: there are therapists and erudite textbooks that serve that purpose. The reason Benitez succeeds is that he is so open and straightforward in the way he discusses those elements of humanity that must be respected in every individual in order to bond with another individual. His suggestions on how to nurture a relationship are simple but so often forgotten (as in the infinitely important art of conversing), his explanation of how to respect boundaries is as solid as anyone has written, and his definitions of how relationships can be harmed is especially poignant (and he is not afraid to discuss spousal abuse openly).

A few other phrases that stand out: `Regard your partner with consideration, appreciation, and acceptance just as she is, not as you believe she should be. Accept and value your partner's point of view even if it differs from yours. Honor your partner's right to privacy by not intruding, interfering, or spying.' `Boredom and predictability can hurt relationships as can the lack of joy and spontaneity.' This is a book of wisdom from experience - one that will touch many aspects of each reader's viewpoints and hopefully will provide examples for change where change is needed.


Relationships that last a lifetime
By
Jackie Paulson "Addicted to Reading" (Chicago IL) - See all my reviews

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Relationship: Notes On Love, Mutual Respect, Boundaries, Marriage, and Divorce by A William Benitez explores the subject of intimate relationship and probes how one can be in a wonderful relationship. This book contains ten insightful chapters:


-What Is Love
-What is a Good Relationship
-Fostering and Nourishing Relationships
-Harming Relationships
-Mutual Respect
-Boundaries
-Marriage
-Breakups and Divorce
-Helpful Tips
-Final Thoughts


The author did a fantastic job writing this book. In the first chapter he defines love, "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person." If you have ever been in one then you know that it is a give and take in order to survive. Compromising is so important. It all depends on which stage of the game you are in. I am in my 40's so my experiences are different than those who are teenagers, whom could benefit from reading this book. They say that those that experienced it can give advice and tips of what they have learned to help you avoid tender mistakes. I especially liked the harmful relationships, mutual respect and boundaries chapters as I need to learn all of them once again. As a codependent it helps to keep me on track in my current relationships even if they are not love related, which includes friend, family and coworkers. Anyone could benefit from the helpful book with tips and thoughts of a personal experienced writer.





This book is broken down into 10 wonderfully written chapters and consisting of 124 pages
By MrsG

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This book is broken down into 10 wonderfully written chapters and consisting of 124 pages. What I found interesting about this book is the way the chapters are broken down. The first few chapters are about love and relationships. The next few chapters are about what goes into a relationship, whether you are nourishing or harming it. Then comes mutual respect and boundaries- the basis for any good relationship. Following is marriage, then breakups and divorce, helpful tips, and final thoughts. The break down of these chapters are the exact order in which a relationship falls, so naturally it makes sense to place one after the other when processing these thoughts, ideas, and facts. Benitez writes a very useful book that I will definitely be reading again!


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